Did you ever leave a party, conference, or networking function and had someone who immediately set off warning bells in your head?  

They said something that just didn't sit right with you.  

It could have been their timing, or was it what they said? 

I have had this happen to me a few times that had me scratching my head and wondering why.

I'm a researcher.  I need to know why.  Not dig in deep about the person but the psychology of the behavior is what I love.  What I have found is jealousy and envy is sometimes the reason for the behavior.

Jealousy and envy are highly related.  They are the result of the toxic combination of anxiety-based insecurity, anger, and an obsession with comparing oneself to others (often very poorly)

Jealousy appears when an individual has a desire for what another person has.

Jealous people…

• Will act overly supportive and giving you insincere compliments.  
• Are excellent copycats.  Yes, psychologists do believe that copycat behavior is often a sign of flattery and I choose to have this mindset.
• They will drown out your achievements by overemphasizing their own.
• They will deliberately give bad advice.
• Will try to ruin your reputation by spreading false rumors or negative comments.  
• They can be very competitive.
• They will criticize you.  An average person will drop some criticism at you at some point, but jealous people will make a career out of it.
• They will celebrate your failures.
• They are great at spoiling your plans.  They are the ones who will tell you that it's going to rain if you have an upcoming event.
• They will humiliate you in front of other people and try to downplay your achievements.  They will even diminish your speech if they speak after you.
• They are almost absent during moments of your success.  A jealous person will give excuses for why they can't attend your party or function.

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1.  When you first wake up, rattle off three things you are grateful for…but tell them to yourself as if you were your 14 year old self.
 
2.  Start your day off by doing something for  you.  Read a chapter in a book, journal, meditate, drink water.
 

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