Did you ever leave a party, conference, or networking function and had someone who immediately set off warning bells in your head?
They said something that just didn't sit right with you.
It could have been their timing, or was it what they said?
I have had this happen to me a few times that had me scratching my head and wondering why.
I'm a researcher. I need to know why. Not dig in deep about the person but the psychology of the behavior is what I love. What I have found is jealousy and envy is sometimes the reason for the behavior.
Jealousy and envy are highly related. They are the result of the toxic combination of anxiety-based insecurity, anger, and an obsession with comparing oneself to others (often very poorly)
Jealousy appears when an individual has a desire for what another person has.
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Jealousy is an emotion that we all experience, some more than others. It is a natural human feeling, and, in little doses, jealousy isn't something we should be overly ashamed about.
If we utilize this emotion positively it can make us re-evaluate our lives and find out exactly why we are experiencing these feelings. It can make us find out about what it is that we are actually missing that is making us feel this way about someone else.
Now there is a big difference between experiencing feelings of jealousy occasionally and being an inherently jealous person.
If you find someone's behavior exhausting and think it could be jealousy, look out for the signs I listed above. Once you recognize the signs this should help protect yourself better.
5 Small Habits you CAN Start Today to Begin Healing & Loving Yourself More
1. When you first wake up, rattle off three things you are grateful for…but tell them to yourself as if you were your 14 year old self.
2. Start your day off by doing something for you. Read a chapter in a book, journal, meditate, drink water.
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3. Set a reminder on your phone to breathe. It will help you to become mindful and lower your stress. I set mine for 9 am, 12 pm and 5 pm.
4. Take time to move each day and eat something healthy. Do this for you. You are worth it!
5. Get into a night routine. Get your stuff organized, wash your face, moisturize, read your book, listen to a meditation and get to bed at a reasonable time.
Remember, caring for yourself is a necessary part of caring for others. Self mastery is key for any type of success in your business or life.
Don't you agree?
Have an amazing day!
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My She Shed Office
Having a She Shed is a woman's dream as is having your own business. As a master motivator, goal-getter, and excuse eliminator, I have both.
I came to have a She Shed many years ago when I had a property management business. I passed my property management business years ago to my daughter so she could have a home-based business, and be with her young kids.
She Shed started to be a normal 10 x 14 shed where we housed tools, lawn equipment, and outside furniture. My husband started to make it an "outside office" when his business was outgrowing the shed and needed a bigger place for his equipment. As my business grew, I needed a dedicated space where I could meet with clients. That's when I got my she shed.
After I passed the business to my daughter, I was able to concentrate on my coaching business full time as well as my networking business called Women Empowering Women Now. I then had an opportunity to get a 3200 square foot office with meeting space in a local business building and jumped at it.
Even though after spending three years there the office was amazing and helped create new opportunities and meet some wonderful women, I realized that I didn't need so much space or the cost of an office.
I decided not to renew my lease and had planned on moving out the end of March which was perfect timing due to the virus. I accumulated many more things during my time at my office which presented some challenges when moving things back to my home which is smaller than half of that office!
But I sold some furniture, gave stuff away, and stored some things in my daughter's future she shed. Yes, she has one too but it needs a lot of work so we are using it as storage for the moment.
Now that I am back home and working out of my She Shed again, everything just fell back into place for me. My routines are easier, life-balance is easier, I get to be with my animals more and I am so much more productive. Now that could be that we are still dealing with the virus and life has slowed down a bit. But I still have coaching clients, still have projects, and still making money.
My she shed is filled with all my business-related equipment, files, books as well as all my creative supplies such as paints, stickers, books, pens, markers, and such.
Having a She Shed is my get-away, my private time that I can plan, think, organize, and enjoy life on purpose.
Do you have your own She Shed? Do you want to get one? Tell me! I want to hear your thoughts.
Have an amazing day!
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Okay...We lost an hour of sleep on International Women's Day! Mercury Retrograde finally ended. We have a full moon. This Friday is Friday the 13th. And people are in a panic over you know what. What a start to a crazy month!
It's amazing on how much stuff that ends up in the "news" or "Facebook" can direct our lives. Think about it? Do you remember the thoughts or actions that you had based on any of the above (daylight savings, International Women's Day, Mercury Retrograde, new full moon or the news on the virus?)
Now there is some news that might help by warning us or educating us but please be responsible on what you add online. Yes to educating but please don't add chaos to the masses.
We have enough stuff in our lives that takes us off track we don't need to add to the stress! Let me remind you of the famous quote out there..."We cannot change the inevitable. The only thing we can do is play on the one string we have, and that is our attitude. I am convinced that life is 10% what happens to me and 90% of how I react to it."
This is a lesson for all of us. The time to focus on what's important, get educated and continue to enjoy your lifestyle biz.
Thank you all for taking the time to read my blog post. I appreciate your support!
Follow up. Why do so many women entrepreneurs hate those two words?
Is it that we forget? It is time management? Or is it the fear of rejection?
I believe it's a combination of all three!
If you don't have a system on how and when to follow up then most likely you are going to forget.
If you let time control you instead of using a planner or blocking specific time to do the follow up then you won't be doing it.
If you allow the gremlins aka...chatter of rejection to continue then you will never step outside your comfort zone and actually follow up.
Let me add that we are all guilty of this, even me. There are times that I battle all of the above.
Following up should be part of your DAILY marketing strategy.
But what if you don't have enough people to follow up with daily? Then you need to get out there and meet new people or follow up with your list you currently have.
Following up is about creating a habit that works for you and doing it consistently. I don't care if you use a CRM, a voice reminder or a piece of paper - just do it.
What is it going to take to finally get serious enough for you to go for it? To go after your dreams? To build your empire? To make an impact? To reach more people with your product or services?
What is holding you back? Really want to know what's holding your back? I'll tell you, it's you.
Big shock, huh? You have created excuses on why you can't...
have a successful business...
don't have clients...
need to work a full time job...
why you're not making money...
can't work from home..
and the cycle goes on and on.
Truth is you are allowing yourself to play small. You are where you are today because of the choices you made. It takes work to create a successful mindset and business. But the rewards are amazing if you are willing to take the first step!
Here are a few tips to help you start:
Take the Truth Serum. Be honest about making excuses.
Ask yourself, why? What are the thoughts that are causing these feelings?
Allow yourself to dream big and go after what you want.
Do the work required.
Somedays can be easier than others but if you work on yourself daily you will find yourself moving forward rather than stalling or not moving at all!
If you still find yourself stuck reach out to me either send me an email or set up a call. Sometimes 15 minutes can change your life.
I have recently made the announcement that I am not renewing my lease at the Siemon Realty Company. What that means is that I am no longer going to have a 3000 square foot facility that houses my coworking space.
The reactions have been for the most part, very encouraging but I can see how some people are upset about the news. For the past three years. it has been a location of awesome connections, energy and collaborations.
In the past year, Women Empowering Women Now has taken off. We have 13 chapters in Connecticut and expanding throughout the United States. Along side of that the growth with my Inner Circle Memberships, Certified Transformational Coaching program and my coaching practice has been amazing. Then I have added my first ever business conference which I am totally excited about!
So you can say that my plate is a bit full. I have added a team but when looking at the coworking space itself I knew that I had to release it so I could make room to work on my Women Empowering Women Now Business. Sometimes you need to release something to make room for something else to flourish fully.
Now I will continue to have my bi-weekly leads groups and my Watertown Chapter Women Empowering Women Now Networking. They will be held at the OWL Center over at the Depot Square Mall in Watertown. I plan on taking CT Business Networking and having pop-up networking all over the state starting in the spring.
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Sometimes we need to step outside of our comfort zone to make our dreams come true! Make it amazing!
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Hey – so have you ever felt burnt out? Ever felt sick and tired of the same thing happening to you over and over again? Tired of saying, “Why her and not me?”
Have you ever felt or needed to take the day off – like if I don’t do this I am going to have a mental break down?
Well, that my friend is burn out! And I am going to help you to stop getting to that point with 4 quick tips.
A list of boundaries will help keep you accountable and help you from having too many of those burn out days. If we adhere to our boundaries, then we can start living a lifestyle biz on our own terms instead of having the biz/days control us.
It’s amazing the number of times I hear the excuse, “I can’t market because I have no money!”
That’s an excuse, that’s the gremlins who continue to sit on your shoulder and feed you the BS because it’s easier not to do anything then it is to work.
Market your biz like a girl boss only means that you are not going to let any gremlin continue the loop of why you can’t do something. You are going to step outside your comfort zone and hold yourself accountable and get it done!
If you want to anything to change in your lifestyle biz then it starts by stepping out of your comfort zone and doing those very things you keep telling yourself that you can’t do.
But let’s talk about marketing. There are so many free things you can do right now to market your biz. Here is a list of my top 10.
Go and incorporate these marketing tasks in your daily schedule! Now if you need accountability and want to change things up then check out Girl Boss Mastermind! We start April 1st!
Seriously, how many times do you find yourself making up an excuse on why you haven’t followed through on something? Do you even recognize it?
Some of us love being in that comfort zone. It’s safe, comfortable and allows us to easily make up excuses so we can stay right there.
So, how do we get out of our comfort zone? The first step is to recognize that we are actually making excuses. Stop and ask yourself, “Is there a real good reason why I don’t want to do this?” Sit with it and get down to the root of reason.
Another question, “Will doing this bring me joy?” “Will it bring me closer to my goal?” or “Will it bring me money?”
Once you determine the excuses that you use to help keep you exactly where you are in life, then you can start making an action plan to help move forward.
Gremlins (inner chatter) are no joke. Seriously, look at what you are missing out because you are allowing to stay in your comfort zone.
About the Author: Doreen Dilger is a Certified Manifest Method Coach, Certified Life Coach, Author and Founder of Women Empowering Women Now.